By Martha Tassinari
How can we navigate through difficult life challenges such as divorce, selling a home, relocation, financial difficulties, loss of a loved one, witnessing a catastrophic event or hearing the news of a devastating life threatening diagnosis(whether yourself or a family member).
I love this quote I came across last September while I was recovering from 2 major lung cancer surgeries:
“Just trust that everything is unfolding the way it is supposed to.
Don’t resist. Surrender to what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be.
Great things are awaiting for you around the corner.”(Sonia Ricotti)
The above quote was and still is powerful for me. I asked for Divine guidance and this quote popped up on Facebook at that exact moment! I love synchronicity.
Perhaps you are going through a challenging time in your life and feel stuck in that dark hole. You may feel that things aren’t going to change or that there is no way out. You may be asking yourself “why me?”
We as human beings crave certainty. We want to know how things are going to turn out. If I make this decision is it the right one? Should I leave this job or relationship? What if it is not the right decision?
I can remember years ago before making any major decision I would ask 10 of my friends for their opinion before taking any action. I would spend hours on the phone!
I wasn’t in a place of faith and trust. I wasn’t trusting my own intuition or seeking the guidance of my spiritual connection.
I want to share 4 powerful ways to shift your mindset from victimhood to trust.
I first want to make it crystal clear that being in a state of trust doesn’t mean not having emotions.
1. Give yourself permission to acknowledge, validate, and feel the feelings. The good news is what we feel we can heal! Allow yourself the time to grieve.
It is when we accumulate those unprocessed emotional wounds within our body, mind, and spirit that it creates what I call an Emotional Virus. This is similar to a physical virus.
An emotional virus may enter the body undetected and energetically anchor itself somewhere in the body causing stress, pain, or physical illness.
Many of us attempt to bury our deep pain inside our hearts. We cram unforgiveness, resentment, and anger into our “sealed container”, but one day that seal breaks and all those emotions rise to the surface and may cause physical and emotional harm.
Release those painful memories and let go of what is no longer serving you. Most importantly, be willing and see yourself as capable of letting go.
2. Practice self-compassion and self-love: This is the healing force for emotional, spiritual, physical, and energetic wounds. The level of self-love affects every aspect of your life-your relationships, finances, health,career, and your level of joy.
A moment of self-compassion can change your entire day, raise your energetic vibration, and shift you into a place of faith and trust.
3. Stay in the present moment: Projecting what may or may not happen can be energetically depleting. When you feel you are worrying about the future ask yourself this question: “Do I know this to be true?” Take one day at a time or one hour at a time.
4. Connect to your spiritual connection on a daily basis. Your spiritual connection is that spiritual Presence that loves you unconditionally.(This can be God, Jesus, Holy Spirit, your angels or whoever you feel a close connection to). Listen to your own inner guidance, and make a conscious decision to stay in faith and trust.
If you need some assistance learning how to connect to your spiritual connection feel free to read this article on some suggestions:http://marthatassinari.com/consequences-of-being-spiritually-disconnected/
The ability to stay in a place of trust takes practice and incorporating the above tools will assist you to shift your mindset and help you navigate through your life challenges.
Martha is a Holistic Life Transitions Coach and works with women who are struggling with painful life transitions such as divorce, grief, loss, cancer, and searching for their life purpose.
Martha inspires women to embrace challenging life transitions as a catalyst for spiritual and personal transformation.
She is based in Sandwich, MA, but works with women globally through phone and Skype.