By Sophia Fromell
Often, we find ourselves caught up in the daily routine of our personal and professional life, and may be feeling that we are missing out on the simpler joys that life has to offer.
Though we may crave the day when we can relax and read a good book, we tend to deprioritise such feelings, believing that focusing on working hard and achieving our next target is more important. As a result, we tend to feel that we are not living life to its fullest; we are troubled with thoughts that there must be more to life and we are consumed with feelings of emptiness and lack of fulfilment. However, it is entirely up to us to take the decision and take the first steps to a more fulfilled life.
Here are a few small steps to start with:
1. Keep life simple.
Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated.
Life is meant to be simple. Because of our fast and demanding pace of life we often overcomplicate things that were meant to be simple. Keep relishing the simple things in life; stop and enjoy a nice meal instead of eating in front of the TV; go for a walk and pay attention to your surroundings, the trees, the buildings, the sounds of your environment. Do not overcomplicate simple decision; if you miss somebody, just call; tell the people you love that you love them.
2. Learn To Be Spontaneous
While planning ahead is sometimes an important organisational element of a busy lifestyle, planning can also add to daily stress. Learning to let loose and be more spontaneous can help us adapt easier to change. By being spontaneous, we learn to trust ourselves, be more confident in our capabilities and eventually become more flexible and adapt better to life’s changing circumstances.
Being spontaneous does not mean being impulsive. Impulsive behavior is often risky as it is induced by stress, a passion or a thought. Contrary to spontaneity, impulsive behavior is usually considered untrustworthy, as it can be hasty and not well thought through.
3. Pick Up A Hobby
Decide on something you’re interested in doing but have never done before. Learning something new does not only allow you to enjoy a new activity and get your mind away from daily stress, it also gives you a mental and physical challenge.
4. Be Socially Active
One of the main complaints of people who live busy and stressful lives is that they do not get to spend enough time with their loved ones. According to a study published by The Daily Mail, Britons have given up on actual socializing in favor of ‘sofalising.’ According to the study, the average Briton spends 4.6 hours a week talking to friends online and only 6 hours in person.
Spending time with friends and family and connecting with them in person rather than over social media, can help you live a longer, healthier life, according to researchers from Brigham Young University and the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill.
Additionally, spending time with loved ones helps reduce the level of daily stress, lifts your mood and contributes to personal growth and development. According to research conducted by BUPA socializing with friends and family can reduce the risk of Alzheimer’s disease.
5. Find Yourself
Though it is beneficial to send quality time with friends and family, spending time with yourself is equally important as it allows you to self-reflect, think deeply and work through problems more effectively. Instead of spending time indoors wrapped in your thoughts, combine those quality self – reflection moments with a long walk. Being in nature can be very refreshing. Walking meditation can help you gain a better understanding of who you are and what you really want to gain out of life.
6. Practice being satisfied.
Don’t wait for the perfect moment to be happy. Pay attention to your thoughts and words; if you are using language such as: “I will be happier when I get this promotion”, “when we move into the bigger house life will be more fun” then you are postponing happiness to another day. Life is a journey, during which we collect the experiences and wisdom that make us who we are today. Be appreciative of what you have achieved so far.
7. Do not beat yourself up
Everybody makes mistakes. It is our response to such mistakes that makes a difference in how we feel. When you make a mistake, recognize it, accept it, learn from it and move forward. Do not beat yourself up over it again and again.