By Robyn Ferreira
It’s important for a child’s healthy development to feel valued and deserving. Healthy self-esteem is a child’s best defense against the problems in the world.
Kids who feel valued seem to have an easier time dealing with adversities and resisting adverse pressures. They tend to smile more and take pleasure in life. It’s also been shown that children who feel important are well-rounded, respectful, and excel in school and after school activities and develop healthy relationships with other class mates. Accept and celebrate your child’s uniqueness. Except your child for having his or her own personal preferences and feelings.
On the other hand, for children who do not feel important or valued they tend to develop low self-esteem, and problems that can become sources of their anxiety and frustration. Allow your child to express his or her own personal thoughts and feelings, which may be different from your own.
You will be the biggest contributor in your child’s life to make sure they feel, valued and esteemed. Remember to praise your child when you see they are accomplishing a task, and also for making a good effort. Praise the good qualities they have, and help them find ways to learn from their mistakes and disappointments. Be truthful and sincere in your praise.
Help them realize that you also have to confront feelings of doubt and make mistakes, but that having these feelings is normal and that that they are still, valued and loved. When you nurture your own value and importance, your child will see that and learn to do the same, so be sure to lead by example and stay away from self-condemnation or engaging in activities that lower your self-esteem.And you should always, encourage your child to be true to themselves.
Your child may have inaccurate beliefs about themselves, their abilities or their strengths and weaknesses. Accentuate the positive about your child, and encourage your child to set realistic expectations for them. Help them identify skills they’d like to improve and help them come up with a way for accomplishing that goal. Encourage your child to become involved in cooperative activities that help teach a sense of teamwork and accomplishment.
Through teaching these, positive attitudes, your child is sure to develop a strong sense of self esteem, and a sense of accomplishment which will carry into their adult years.
And finally, encourage your child to always express themselves with confidence and by doing the same you Show your child how to make positive choices, and that nobody is perfect and you too make mistakes.