By Asma Naim
Have you ever tried to cry while you are standing or sitting comfortably with straight back, looking forward? Or have you tried to smile while you are sitting with bended back, head slumped forwards and looking at the floor? Feels awkward!
You’ll feel that your body language and your mental situation don’t fit. You can’t have happy thoughts and sit with head slumped forward looking at the floor. This clearly identifies without any doubt the strong connection between body language and self-esteem.
Our body language expresses how we feel about ourselves. When we live a positive body language we develop our self-esteem toward a higher level. With our body language we can boost our self-esteem, same as with empowering words or actions.
Here are main signs of the body language obvious when you have a high self-esteem. Try to get used to them.
- Practice smiling. Smiling not only makes you more attractive and trustworthy, it also improves your feelings about yourself. Smiling can trick your brain into feeling happy, even when you feel sad as you’re smiling.
- Exercise appropriate eye contact. Look forward with open interested eyes at the people you’re speaking with and keep eye contact without staring. It imparts a sense of intimacy, confidence and connection to your interactions.
- Keep your chin up. Your head should be held straight, not bending repeatedly left, right or downwards while talking to an eminent person. This shows that you are getting easily dominated by the person in front of you. When you maintain a straight position of the head, you will feel confident about yourself.
- Pay attention to posture. Sit or stand with your back straight and keep your shoulders back and relaxed. Good posture also reflects a confident demeanor to others. When you stand straight, with your shoulders back and head held high, you look self-assured and poised.
- Keep your arms open. Don’t cross them, make the same with your legs. Give friendly and open gestures toward others. Hands clasped and crossed over the genitals is a self-comfort gesture that reveals vulnerability or shyness.
- Watch your speech. Speak slowly. Speak clearly with a steady and normally loud voice. Research has proved that those who take the time to speak slowly and clearly feel more self-confidence and appear more self-confident to others. Moreover, they will actually be able to understand what you are saying.
- Dress confidently. Clothes do make a difference in how we perceive ourselves, and how others perceive us. Dressing well will add to your confidence, even when you are feeling down. If necessary, purchase a few classic pieces (not only the trendiest fashion) to add to your wardrobe that make you feel confident and powerful.
When you practice powerful, positive body language, you’re sending messages to your brain to reinforce positive, confident feelings. Confident body language actually makes you feel more confident and you will send appropriate positive signals to others.