In my opinion, women today are burdened with great expectations! Yes women can multitask and men may not be cognitively structured to do so, but let us take a moment to analyze the multitasking process, and it’s effect on women today.
Let’s analyze a single woman’s life. It is a constant struggle for a woman to prove herself in this society. It’s physically and mentally draining. A woman is pressured to prove that she can be independent. She is capable of getting a good job that is compatible with her educational background. Then she is pressured by expectations of performing as well as, if not better, than her male colleagues. She is forced to set aside her femininity, emotions, and physical limits to prove that she is as equal as her male peers at work. If she succeeds then she is viewed as a woman stripped from her feminine side, because she might have needed to shut-out her maternal instincts, since they might be considered by some as chains of her success. Meanwhile, she struggles mentally with the fact that she is a woman and should be allowed to act like one and not like a “man” in business. Acting like a “woman” in business is viewed as a weakness! This stereotype was implicated by male chauvinists in the job market.
As a result, this single woman, who is constantly trying to prove that she is equal to any man in doing her job, has to set aside her personal life. She is deprived, be it intentionally or unintentionally, of being a wife and/or mother because let’s face it: the reality is you can’t be both a successful businesswoman and fully committed to your husband, children, and home. She is forced to sacrifice one for the other. If she doesn’t and chooses to have all, businesswoman, wife, and mother, then she is facing a constant mental dilemma of whether she is fulfilling her duties in all aspects of her life.
This brings me to discuss the life of a married businesswoman. Multitasking is a woman’s super characteristic, but how long can she take it? She is constantly making choices of prioritizing her daily life. An example of multitasking at it’s worst is when a working mother has a very important meeting to attend to and her kids school calls her up to pick her child because of a high fever. If she chooses to reschedule or defer the meeting for the sake of her child then she is judged as an incompetent worker. If chooses to go to the meeting and leave her feverish child at home then she is judged as an incompetent mother! This is only a simple example of a multitasking businesswoman/mother in this society today.
Let’s analyze the mental aspect of this case. This woman is an example whom I will keep referring to throughout this analysis because there are many women like her in today’s world. This mother and businesswoman will constantly be thinking and juggling between business and home. She is constantly trying to perform at her best, mentally and physically, in both situations to prove to the world that she is no less than a man.
If we look at it from another perspective then we will see that she is better than a man because of her capability of multitasking by managing her business and managing her home, but how much can she take? How long will she be able to do it before she breaks down? I will not ignore the fact that women are physically and mentally created different than men. Therefore, she is bound to break down one day, but the question is when? This is how the world views such a woman, and this where the great expectations creep into the life of this woman because she is expected to succeed in business and raise a positively productive family in this society. The burden of these expectations will sooner or later wear her out.
One wonders why many of these women end up with anxiety or depression disorders? The ignorant think that this woman has everything: a successful business and a good family, so why should she be depressed rather than grateful, but what they don’t know is the toll that the life she leads puts on a woman to get that far. She is depressed because she feels that she is pressured into always being “strong”. She is depressed because she feels that she isn’t allowed to show “weakness” at any point because she is the foundation of her business and family’s succeeding. She is depressed because she is expected to face the reality of life without complaints.
A woman isn’t a machine but a human being that has limits just like a man has limits, so why are they harshly criticized in today’s society? If a woman is busy with her job then she is stereotyped as not being there for her family. If a woman is busy with her family then she is stereotyped as not caring enough about her job. If a woman chooses not to get married and have children then she is constantly being told that she is missing out on some of the best things that happen in one’s life! If it were a man in her shoes then he wouldn’t be so critically analyzed. Take a moment and think who is anyone to judge this woman? After all, she is a human being before being a woman.
published from: http://aquarian2610.com/2014/12/12/role-of-woman-today