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To my children with love  

By Mira Khatib

 

In a few short years you will spread your wings and become independent. I hope you read this letter and think hard about who you are and more importantly who you want to become. Here are the twelve things I like you to think about, pray over and hopefully remember for the rest of your beautiful life:

Faith. Keep God in the center of everything you do.  It is O.K. to make a mistake; after all we are only humans.  God will always love you, no matter what. Stay true to yourself.  Never forget you were made for Heaven and you are only passing through this life.

Values. Your dad and I have taught you the difference between right and wrong. Never lose touch with your values as they define who you are. Don’t be tempted to sacrifice your values for a little temporary comfort or pleasure. It is never, ever worth it.

Family. Your family will always be there for you. Ask yourself how you can be there for them.  Respect the elderly and remember one day you too will be old.

Education. School isn’t always going to be fun. It wasn’t for us either. But, it is very important to have a quality education if you want to have good options in life. Never be satisfied that you know enough. Become lifelong learner. 

Work. Nothing in life is truly free. Work hard and you will be rewarded. I promise you there is no easy path to riches and there is no substitute for hard work. I know.

People. You will come across many people in your lives; some are good others are not. Treat them all with respect. Know when to be assertive and when to be forgiving. Be tolerant and accept differences.

Love. Care more about your inner beauty than outward appearance, as appearance will certainly change.  You will know you are in love when your heart skips a beat, your stomach has butterflies and you can’t stop thinking about the person as the most beautiful you have ever seen. Then what? Get to know the person, build a relationship and take the time to see who truly this person is. Remember in our culture you marry the whole family and not just the person. So chose your life partner wisely.

Responsibility. You have heard your dad and I say this a thousand times: “You need to be more responsible!” Don’t wait for somebody else to take responsibility. Someone has to lead and take charge, why not you? If you are tasked to do something, lead with passion. If you say you will do something, do it. There is a significant joy when you accomplish what you were set out to do.

Friendship. Be true to yourself and your friends. Hang out with people who share your values. Be a good enough friend to others that you always tell them the truth. This is the sign of a true friend. If your friends go down a path you know is wrong, stand your ground and do not follow. The tricky thing about friendship is you sometimes find yourself alone.  Remember what is right and what is wrong. 

Yourself. Don’t ever pretend to be someone else. Not me not your dad not anyone else. You are going to stumble and struggle at times in life, but always remember we are here for you and we love you. Being your own self will give you inner peace which will make you really and truly happy.

Power.  Remember absolute power corrupts absolutely.  You are strong only when you control your desires, control your anger, admit your mistakes and treat the weak amongst us with compassion and you are fair to all around you.  A smile, a thank you can go a long way.

Community.  One of the best joys in life is to give.  Is to know you can make a difference in someone’s life.  Be active in all that is good for your community and your fellow humans.

May you have a life filled with mixed blessings, health, peace of mind, love and happiness.

 

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2 comments

  1. Great article; honest advices

  2. We also should teach our children the following.
    1. That they will fall. When this happens they should stand up and keep moving.
    2. There is evil is the world we live. Keep your guard and keep your values.
    3. Money is both a blessing and evil. Earn it rightfully and spend it wisely.
    4. Priorities will change in time. What won’t change consequences from bad decisions.
    5. In their darkest days and hardest times all should remember that tomorrow brings a new fresh start. Pain never lasts.
    Happy living to all.

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